What if the child is no longer interested in family trips?

Can you already imagine how you can have a wonderful weekend with the whole family in the country, and the grown up child says that he has more interesting things to do? Dont be upset! 16-year-old Misha explained to Mel, when children lose interest in family gatherings and how best to respond to this with their parents.

Question. Recently, the son began to spend very little time with us. He constantly walks with friends, and when he comes home, he immediately goes to his room, where he plays a computer. It became simply impossible to persuade people to go to the country for the weekend. Please tell me at what age close communication with parents ceases to be interesting for a teenager? And how does a parent behave?
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Answer. I was no longer interested in family trips and museum trips at the age of 12–13. At this age, I was more interested in hanging out with friends.

Why it happens? I didn’t really think about it, but I think that teenagers look at their peers who constantly hang out somewhere in parks, in some places where you can chat with each other. In Moscow, this is Kitai Gorod, Gorky Park, VDNH, Botanical Garden, and Flacon.

Many cease to be interested with parents because hobbies in the family do not coincide or adults behave too annoyingly and wardly. Teenagers don't like it, they want more freedom.
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On my own I can say that in the country it is often boring, especially if the teenager does not have friends there. And there it can catch the Internet badly!

In many families, parents insist that children go to the country with them. It bothers me. I do not like when some kind of pressure begins. If I really like spending time outside the city, then I myself will want to go to the country.

The problem is that in most cases, the opinion of a teenager does not interest anyone. Adults just say: “That's it, we go to the country.” But if the child does not want to go, it is better to always leave him alone. If you have a good reason why you definitely want to take it with you, talk to him about it when he is not busy with anything.
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Start with the phrase “Can I have a little attention?”. If he agrees, explain why this is important for you, say that he will have the opportunity to unwind and take a break from the bustle of the city. You can touch on the topic of family values; everybody needs such conversations from time to time.

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