Beloved actress Sergei Ursulyak, prima of the “Pyotr Fomenko Workshop”, owner of a number of theater and state awards, Polina Agureeva never aspired to live like a star. She easily exchanged red carpet and camera flashes for her parents' house in the Moscow region and spent time with her sons Petya (15 years old) and Timofey (4 years old).
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1. In our family everyone loves children very much, and it is important for us to be friends with them. But for this you need to at least see them, communicate together. We (I still have a sister and a brother) do this, gathering in the house of my parents in the suburbs. This is such a place of power for our family, we will definitely celebrate New Year there, celebrate birthdays. And Petya, when he was little, generally came up with a separate holiday - Family Day. We still celebrate it - we are going in June. That is, the children, somehow by themselves, naturally joined these traditions. Once, for example, I suggested Petya to take a trip on the winter holidays, but he was indignant: “What about Grandmother and Grandfather New Year?” And to be honest, it even pleased me.
2. The most important thing that brings up a child is the atmosphere in the family. Here we read some book, listen to music, and Petya also knows everything about these works, about their authors, he is fully involved in our life. I show Petya the sketches of my costumes, sets, talk about the performances, he always knows that I rehearse and how I see this role. And my husband Fedya (actor and director Fedor Malyshev. - Ed.) Also always tells Pete about work. Sometimes he even knows more about the Fedin performance than I do. We consider such trust very important, but all this happens without pressure. After all, it’s impossible to interest a child with something.
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Pauline with Timothy
3. With our youngest son, we mostly watch Soviet cartoons. Some foreign ones too, but very selectively. It is not even a matter of patriotism, it is simply Soviet hand-drawn cartoons, firstly, moral, and secondly, they have a huge palette of feelings. In my opinion, it is very important that a person can distinguish between sensual nuances. But modern animated series do not teach this, it shows only pleasure - frustration, and this is their maximum palette.
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Someone once showed his son “Paw Patrol” to his son, and that’s all, after these cartoons, he stopped perceiving the Soviet ones. Immediately the series, an endless story that is addictive - the children quickly sit down on this. And I think, if you watch cartoons, then at least not only for entertainment, but also for development. In general, I forbade Paw Patrol. I just want the child to learn to perceive the world in volume, and such cartoons, alas, are very in the way.
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4. The eldest son has been living without internet for a year. This is our common, family decision, because at some point it became clear - the values that are offered in the family are drowning in a stream of unverified vulgar information from the Internet. And Petya had a monstrous addiction: he simply stuck in social networks every free second, constantly sending voice messages; it looked awful.
Now we do not have internet at all, our son has a push-button telephone. Yes, there was a breaking, and the strongest. But we overcame it. And I see how much my child has changed this year. Petya learned to play the guitar perfectly, read a million books, he writes stories, poems, novels, plays every night. He had a huge need for creativity. I don’t know if we did the right thing by depriving the teenager of the Internet, but it was a forced decision, desperate, because it was already obvious - we were losing it.
Polina and her family under the "family" oak in the suburbs
5. In a modern school, the “Be Successful!” Installation scares me. And while not a word about humanity. A formality that outweighs the essence. For example, OGE in literature is an absolute profanity. Either you must be a candidate of science, philologist to pass this OGE, or you condemn children (after all, they are not a priori candidates of science) to a formal approach to this issue, to the sounding of learned stupidity. I recently watched a program where children who successfully passed the OGE were asked what Turgenev image became phraseologism. No one answered - they passed the exam, but they don’t know about the Turgenev girl. But this is much more important than what appears in the tests. There was a substitution of concepts: instead of real, deep knowledge, they try to give children a set of facts. Timothy will soon be at school, and I just don’t know where to give it. Because from experience with Petya I can imagine what they will offer him there.
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6. I encourage gender education. We watched a program recently where the German mother of an eight-year-old boy says: “We do not use the words“ girl “or“ boy “. We say: “This child.” Petya then was indignant: “God, what a horror! You don’t already know who you are, what you want, but here they also offer you the simplest to doubt! ” Indeed, it is so difficult in childhood and adolescence to understand what you are. And if you are deprived of the main support - your gender - e
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